Men also communicate feelings differently than women. While women articulate emotions verbally, men express themselves through action, like fixing things or exercising (Levant et al., 2009). When forced to talk in therapy, many men freeze up or get frustrated.
Additionally, men's friendships involve seemingly negative ways of showing affection, like insults or roughhousing (Morman et al., 2013). So when a therapist doesn't insult them, it feels foreign and ineffective.
Thankfully, there are solutions. Therapists can use less open-ended questions and provide more concrete guidance aligned with masculine norms (Mahalik et al., 2012). Incorporating physical activities like Tai Chi can help men access emotions through their body (Li et al., 2001). Support groups can provide male bonding and advice from other men (Galdas et al., 2015).